Well we survived Christmas, without too much hassle, and without me murdering Mr H, although there were one or two moments when I was tempted! We had a quiet Christmas Day on our own, then 2 of my sons and partners came for 4 days, which was busy to say the least!
Mr H was doing well, coping with the influx of guests ok, but then had a crisis in that his mum, who lives 3 hours drive away, was rushed into hospital over the weekend. I assumed he would want to go down, and offered to go with him, leaving our guests here with the dog, but no, he hadn't planned to go so obviously couldn't make a spontaneous trip! Unbelievable! This crisis, of course, has caused arguments between him and one of his sisters (the other sister is desperately trying to keep the peace) as he feels she is to blame for not getting the GP in before. And inevitably there has to be blame, mr H cannot accept that things happen that are no-ones fault. He can't just keep quiet and wait for the chaos to die down before speaking to his sister either, he has to have a row on the phone, and then be very scathing when his sister is upset. Stupid man. Anyway he has gone to see his mum today, so I am having a bit of much needed respite from him!
The other issue we have had is over money, yet again. One of my sons got engaged on Christmas Day, and they are hoping to get married in July or August, so it was very exciting when they were here, talking about possible wedding plans, they don't want to spend a huge amount of money but do want to have a lovely day. After they left yesterday, Mr H said to me " we need to ask them what they want for a wedding present, no more than £200"! This is the man who has just spent £700 on a music system that HE wanted. I would love to be able to give both my 3 and his 2 kids a few thousand each towards weddings or houses, but when there are 5 of them, it has to be rationed a bit, we just don't have that sort of money, but we can easily afford this. "well, I'm giving them money, I have always said to you
that they can all have £1000 each towards either a wedding or a house. If you don't like it, I'll take it out of my isa." I said. He nearly fell down the stairs ( and I wish he had). The hand flapping started as he was doing calculations in his head....."that's £5000 in total" he said, "yes but not all at the same time" I replied. He went to have a shower and to try to gather more ammunition! When he came out he was ready with his next argument....." That means each wedding will cost us about £5000, when you add cost of outfits, and overnight accommodation, and putting the dog in kennels....."
" so" I say " we are giving the happy couple a gift of £1000, I'm not sure what you are planning to wear dear but my outfit won't cost more than £300 max, a hotel won't be more than £200, the dog tends not to book into the Hilton, and her kennels cost £20 a night. So, that's £1540, which gives you £3460 to spend on a suit. I look forward to seeing you in it"
At which point I gathered the dog and went for a walk!
When I came back he said nothing. So my plan is to wait until my son lets me know the date, then I will give him the money, out of my isa.
I am absolutely furious with Mr H, he is mean with money (my bloody money! Unless it is for something that he wants for himself) and more to the point, mean spirited.
And another thing, I can't get the bloody £700 music system to play any music, so as far as I'm concerned it's a £700 radio! Useless.
Hannah x
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