Mr H and I have a spending wish list, mostly for things in the house and garden, such as getting the garden fencing replaced, getting the loft boarded, getting the bathroom replaced, and getting some half decent conservatory furniture. Some of my wishes are different to his, but I tend to work with the principle that we get the necessities done first then negotiate. If I mention in passing " it'll be great if/ when we get the bathroom done", Mr H takes it as a demand from me (not sure why as it isn't at all) and goes into mini meltdown, with hand flapping and borderline hysterical cries of "I can't do everything, you will have to prioritise". That is one of the reasons that I have gone back to work, so that I feel I have more control over our joint finances, and so that I feel I am contributing more to the things that we want and need to do.
Ha Ha! Life's not like that.
So we went out on Saturday, bought a Christmas tree, had lunch out and generally had quite a pleasant time. We got home and I went upstairs (with a glass of wine - it's compulsory!) to do the ironing. 30 minutes later, Mr H came upstairs to show me an advert for a music system that he's been coveting. "Well add it to the list" I say. Off he went, 15 minutes later he came back to tell me he'd ordered it. It costs over £700. "It's our joint Christmas present" he told me. We have never, ever spent that much money on presents for each other. Well thank you so much Mr H, that's my salary, And I could, and would, have spent it better, had I been given a choice. He cannot understand why I am not ecstatic, and told me that there was no pleasing me!
He really is so very very selfish, once he gets a desire for something, be it this sound system, or fishing gear or whatever, he has to have it, regardless of the impact on our joint finances. Sometimes I really do not like him at all.
Hannah x
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