I haven't posted for a very long time but I'm still here. Just. Keeping on keeping on.
I've read quite a lot recently about the mental load that women take on within relationships. More so I suggest when their partners are AS.
Mr H doesn't feel the need to retain any relevant information, like what needs to go on the shopping list, what the neighbours are called, and more importantly which bin goes out on which day, and although there's a list on the notice board, it's obviously much easier to ask me, the keeper of all knowledge. I'm bloody sick of it. I've stopped saying "grey bin, Wednesday", I now say "don't know".
Him " have I got a birthday card for my sister?" (Yes really)!
Me "don't know"
Him " is the milk in date?"
Me "don't know"
Him " is The dishwasher emptied?"
Me "don't know"
Etc etc
He asks these questions because he's too idle to remember or to look. Drives me insane.
In my head are birthdays, events, important dates, visits to and from kids, shopping lists, stuff to be done in the house and garden, cleaning, decorating, grasscutting, bins, village stuff like the flower festival, community stuff, window cleaners, presents and cards to buy, hairdressers, dentist, chiropodist, GP check ups, prescriptions, friends, volunteering duties, vets for dog, flea and worming for dog........and on and on and in and on........
In his head is work stuff, his beloved spreadsheets and finances. That's it. He can tell me in an instant how much money we have in various accounts to within £1. I have no idea, I checked a few weeks ago when I was "getting my ducks in a row", wrote it down and hid in my purse, but can't remember!
A few weeks (mid April) ago he was compiling some info to send to his accountant.
Him "When did we move here? "
Me "April 4th"
Him "what year?"
Me " what?"
Him " I can't remember everything!"
What's more astounding is that only the week before, I'd said that it was 4 years since we'd moved here.
But hey, why retain anything when you've got a wife to bear the mental load?
