Creative differences, and no cross words!

Sometimes I do wonder if Mr H and I are from or on different planets! Today we were watching something on TV which involved a person making a 3D sculpture of a hare from wire, it was impressive, and I said to Mr H that I really admire that ability to create your vision; I can visualise how I want colour schemes, room decor, crafts etc, but wouldn't know where to start making a 3D object. "I know what you mean" said Mr H, " I can visualise my spreadsheets at work though." And indeed he can, I have heard him on the phone talking someone through a procedure, and find it amazing that he can do that.

But this inability of his to visualise anything other than spreadsheets (!) causes us no end of niggling little problems. When we moved to this house, I had measured rooms and furniture, and was very clear in my head about what would fit and what wouldn't, Mr H, on the other hand, thought that we should just bring everything and shoehorn it into the new house, despite the fact that we were downsizing.  It didn't happen dear reader! 

If I tell him about an idea I have had for the garden, or the house, he looks puzzled, he can't imagine how it might look until I explain in graphic detail, or even draw it for him. Even then, he really has no idea until the work is done, and he will say it looks ok (although always with the caveat that he didn't think it needed changing!) Luckily, he usually gives in (after a bit of stubbornness) and I get what I want. 

I think I have totally changed my stance over the last couple of years, I don't argue, I let him think he is getting his own way but in fact I am! I put an idea into his head, and after a few weeks he thinks it's his own. Result! Today, we have been in this house 2 years, and raised a glass of fizz to celebrate. "And almost no cross words since we moved" said Mr H. "Indeed" I replied, while thinking  that  the lack of argument is due to my man management! 
Hannah x