Differences of opinion..........

Have had an interesting conversation with Mr H today. We had a bit of a spat this morning, over nothing really;  our front garden is being "remodelled" and mostly gravelled, but we want to put some more trees in. I had a brainwave whilst walking the dog, and said to Mr H that it would be a good idea to plan where to put the trees today, and dig the holes and mark with plant pots before the gravel goes on. 
As is his wont, he found the pompous negative, "well my thoughts on that are what if we wanted to change our minds about placing the trees? What if we don't  want to to buy trees straight away?" 
My answer  to both,  "no problem, we can wait and decide, and if the markers are there it doesn't matter when we buy the trees", but he had a bit of a tantrum, accused me of being negative (!) and said that I was deliberately trying to be difficult, and was I trying to start an argument? 
I  said "not at all, I had a thought, which I thought I would discuss with you, but it's obviously a waste of time so now I am getting on with the housework and ironing, see you later" and went upstairs to clean and iron. 
About 30 mins later he came upstairs, almost tearful, asking if we were still friends, and asking for a hug. I have to say, I find it a bit pathetic when he does this, he has created this situation, not me, but when he starts being argumentative, he can't follow it through, because he has no logical argument. I gave him a hug but really my heart wasn't in it!

Later on, we almost had another spat, but I held it back! some of you may know, his mum died 6 weeks ago, and his 60 year old sister, who is single and has always lived at home, despite having quite a high powered job, is struggling with it all. Mr H rang her today, to see how things were. He has been phoning her almost every day when he is at home (so at least 4 days a week) during the daytime, and is on the phone for up to 30 minutes, but a couple of weeks ago had a massive whinge at me for ringing my cousin once at 5.55pm which has cost us £2.50! I am looking forward to seeing our next phone bill!

Hannah x