Peace, perfect peace.........

It is 6.30 on Sunday morning and I am sitting in the living room with a cup of tea, cuddled up to the dog, enjoying the early morning peace and quiet, before Mr H gets up and starts organising me. It's "me time" and I love it, just to be able to read, or write, or think for an hour or so without fear of interruption, while he sleeps upstairs, no doubt dreaming of new ways of running my life!

My New Years resolution is to be more positive in my thoughts and reactions to Mr H, and I'm starting now ( although it's a bit like losing weight, I'll probably fall off the wagon after a few days!). What I have come to realise over the past few weeks, is that treating him (in my head mostly) like a child is not good for our relationship, I don't want to be his mother, we should be two adults. It's the old transactional analysis thing, if our relationship is parent / child, then we will both play those roles, and it's not healthy for us.
So I have resolved to be an adult rather than a parent, I will take time for me (even if it's at silly o'clock!), follow some of my own desires and not give in to everything that he wants me to do or be.

Quite often, I react to what I think is injustice and stubbornness from Mr H, whereas if I hold my tongue (not easy!) and keep quiet, he will often come round to my way of thinking - and I get what I want. There have been 2 examples of this over Christmas; firstly the bathroom. Our bathroom is ok, it's liveable with, but I would like a better shower, and to make better use of the small space, and for it to be a bit more modern. Mr H has always argued that it's fine and doesn't warrant spending money on, but now there is a possibility of a friend of his from the US coming to stay with us for a few weeks next year, he thinks it might be a good idea to get the bathroom done. Result!
Secondly, I said in my last post about giving my son £1000 towards his wedding, and that Mr H wasn't happy about it. Yesterday, just after I had been speaking to son and fiancée about venues etc, Mr H said that the £1000 was in our savings account and that I could take it out whenever I want. Result 2!!
So hopefully 2015 will be the year of positive thinking. Watch this space........

Hannah x