Having to be right - how quickly meltdowns can happen.

Mr H always has to be right, and usually I let him get away with it, working on the principle that he thinks he is right, let him think he is right, I know I am right,  I have the upper hand and I know he is behaving like a tw*t. Occasionally I just can't let it go, and have to argue my point, but I am always conscious that this could turn into a full blown meltdown on his part, and I really can't be doing with it, I survived my children's toddler and teenage tantrums, I don't want to do it all over again with a 56 year old man. He has had some spectacular meltdowns when stressed, and it is difficult to love and respect for a man who behaves like a 2 year old when stressed; I sometimes feel like his mother rather than his wife.
This morning, I was going out to see a friend and staying over, and was planning to include a bit of a shopping trip. He is working at home and dog sitting. I was eating my toast when he asked me if I was planning to visit ikea first
Me (mumbling through toast) "yes"
He then comes and stands in front of me, eyebrows raised as if waiting for an answer.
Me " yes, I said yes when you asked me"
Him" you didn't say anything"
Me " I did, I said yes"
Him.........well you get the picture, it goes on and on until I say of course he is right, I must have imagined that I said yes. He accepts this as he thinks that he has "won". He fails to pick up the irony in my voice.
I can get that I may have mumbled,  but I know I responded, he cannot get that he may not have heard. This is when he is a tw*t, and when he irritates me beyond belief.

I finished my breakfast and left, he wanted to give me a hug but I wouldn't. He seemed to have no idea that the argument about my response to him and my not wanting to hug him were connected.

I have had a lovely relaxed day / evening with my friend, we have shopped, chatted , had lovely food, lovely wine, and enjoyed each other's company, without ever worrying about someone getting the wrong end of the stick.

He, on the other hand, is missing me (not reciprocated at the moment!), or ,with my cynical head on, wanting to regain control. He has been texting me all day, asking me what I have bought, what I am eating, am I having a good time.

Well I am going to enjoy the rest of my evening, with another glass of red and NT company!

Cheers  Hannah x