Saturday, 3 October 2015

What did you say?

Mr H doesn't really listen to what I say. He talks at me, but doesn't listen to, or hear, or process my response. He does, however, know how he wants me to respond and often thinks that he has heard that. Does that make sense?
Yesterday was a case in point

We have 2 dogs, one old and slow, the other younger and much more energetic. When Mr H is away, I walk both dogs together slowly down the lane, then take dog 2 out again for a 3 mile hike. Mr H doesn't want to do that when he's here, he wants us to go together, then one of us carry on with dog 2. Fine, if that's what he wants, it doesn't really matter to me.

So yesterday morning, he started getting up and dressed, while I was still reading in bed.
" tell you what" I said " you set off with dog 2, I'll take dog 1 for a short stroll when I get up"
Off he went downstairs. I finished the chapter of my book, got up, had a shower, got dressed, sorted some washing and went downstairs.....to find Mr H and 2 dogs in the kitchen, obviously waiting for me, and obviously annoyed. (Mr H, not the dogs!)
" I thought you were taking dog 2" I said.
"No, you said to wait for you" he replied.
Now there's no point in arguing because he is convinced that's what he heard. And I know what I said. I do find it incredible though, that he would just stand there waiting for 45 minutes, why didn't he just go?

So we set off together in stony silence, and I was glad when it was time for me to turn back with
dog 1. And he sulked all morning.

Happy days!

Hannah x

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