Mr H always has an excuse for not doing something that he doesn't want to do, and also an excuse for doing something that he shouldn't! And it's never his fault.
Today we've been doing gardening stuff, weeding mostly. Mr H doesn't like weeding, he prefers to do something more exciting (!) like edging the lawn (which he does once a year, and a fortnight later it looks as bad as it did before, but he's happy, he's edged the lawn, the box is ticked!). So after 5 minutes weeding, he wandered off to look for newts in the pond, while I carried on with the back breaking stuff. I went to find him after a while and asked why he wasn't helping me....." Well I'm not sure which are the weeds" was the excuse, not impressed, he could ask me if he's unsure.
After tea, I sat in the conservatory knitting and listening to the radio, he was in the front room watching TV........or perhaps not, I wandered in at 7.30pm and he was fast asleep, as he was at 8.30, and 9.30. At 9.45pm he staggered out to tell me that he was exhausted, he was going to bed. He thinks it may be his tablets, because he has increased the dose. "Why have you increased the dose ?" I ask, "Well I thought I'd see what happened" he replied. I was speechless (and that doesn't happen often dear reader!)
So the tablets for his IBS, which only this afternoon he told me were the best thing ever, have now made him exhausted. Nothing to do with the bottle of wine he drank then. Another excuse.
Last week, when he was away, the power went off when I put the outside lights on at night. It was raining very hard, and I assume some water had got into one of the lights. I got a torch, checked the circuit board, dealt with the problem. When I told Mr H, he said " you probably overloaded the circuit". Well I didn't do anything different, but he was insistent that I must have done something wrong. "Yes dear" I said, feeling slightly smug that I'm in the right!
Always excuses. So exhausted that he couldn't help me empty the dishwasher, or let the dog out, so
busy faffing with the pond that he couldn't help me weed the garden, so busy with his AS life that we
have no normality at all.
Sometimes it exhausts me, but it's no excuse, I just have to get on with life.
Hannah x
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ReplyDeleteI know, Hannah, the way they are ALWAYS right, it doesn't even enter their head that there might be another answer or solution to an issue. My sister even witnessed once (and it was very affirming to see I wasn't crazy like I feel so often) my AS spouse insist I was wrong about some directions when clearly I was right. But, typical, he had it in his head that it was a certain way and the only possible explanation was that I was wrong!
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